Trust, Love, Sex and batteries

A womens best friend is her shower head, come on guys masturbate all the time and women just don't talk about it, We are only human and have needs! Quick fix take a shower; the shower head is good; especially when it pulsates. I enjoy sex, but have a hard time finding someone who keeps up to me, someone who satisfies me, my ex boyfriend of 6 years was amazing, him and I rocked, because we took things out of the bedroom and taught each other, listened to each other and practiced a lot, we could do it anywhere, His now girlfriend should Thank me lol and be very happy that she has his penis! You can have sex, but if it's just a quickie what the hell is the point; mind as well of kept your pants on!
As far as sex toys go, I need the closeness of a man present, Sex is much more enjoyable if it's paired with love and comfort, and trust. Trusting your partner can lead to enjoyable pleasure and take you to new means, Being able to take it out of the bedroom and be spontaneous; taking control, and just being free. I used to think that the best way to get over a man was to get under one but one night stands didn't fill the void; they left me feeling emptier, briefly satisfied, wanting more. Sex was hugely important, and without it I felt like I was free falling. I realized that having a permanent sexual partner was better than a random one and much better than doing it alone. Sex is important but there is more to a relationship, the little things that keep it going, I rather have love than some romp in the sack, an emotional attachment rather than some meaningless one night stand.
For the first time in a long time I have not had sex, and I refuse to pick up some man and just do it for the sake of doing it, even bad sex is better than no sex but sex is just sex no matter how you define it, making love is a meaning in it's own and that's when all the elements are present; I think anyway, anyone can have sex, but can they make love? I will remain sexless in the city till I can be ready to put my heart and soul into it and have it not be empty. Besides sex is so much better when all the elements are there, love, trust and batteries!

Moving on

Is it possible to re-program our brains; to change the way we think or portrait things?

Each relationship we leave, takes a part of us, leaving the next person to repair the damage done, or to be a part of what is left of our hearts. Women automatically fear the worst; a cheating boyfriend, when he hasn't come over or called, I tend not to trust my current partner just because of past relationships, my past haunts me and I do not know if I will ever be happy and just trust whom I am with and just let things be rather than cause chaos and uncertainty.

Have you ever let one get away? I liked this guy back when I was 18, liked as a friend, and left him for someone else, now I keep thinking about him, hoping to have a second chance to see how things could have been. My problem was that he was too nice, oh my god is there such a thing? How many of us have regrets; how many are still feeling the need to change, that are not satisfied, that something is still missing in their relationship?
After my happily ever after failed, which I never really put the effort into it and neither did he, we rushed into marriage because I thought I was 100% ready to commit and change, that I had put the past aside. I was wrong and still held a flame for my ex boyfriend, never thinking he would change, but he did.
But yet somehow I still remain the same inside, still trying to figure things out. I went back to an ex boyfriend, obviously there is a comfort zone thing with him, He is good with my daughter, and that's important. Now my (ex) husband wants to rekindle what we had, did we really have anything? My daughter's father wants back in our lives, 3 years is a lot of time that has passed between us. Has he changed? I doubt it; he is still a workaholic, still not taking any responsibility or trying to spend time with his daughter. He obviously hasn't learned from his past mistakes. Prime example he was given a second chance if you will with a second child; our daughter, (He has a teen aged son)and still knowing that he wasn't a huge part of his son's life and having the chance to be there for his daughter he isn't. I don't know what to think, My past still haunts me, but it has made me a better mother and person towards my daughter, I have learned from my Mother's mistakes and try to take my own path.

I am sure that with the right partner we can reprogram our brains and live and learn from our past mistakes.

Taking the bored out of the bedroom

Turn off your phones, and do not schedule sex, that just puts a damper on things. Sex should be fun and spontanious, Just go with the flow, exploring each others bodies, pretend if you will that it's uncharted territory.

Sex, it's not taboo, people have sex all the time. Sex is natural and will happen no matter what. Sex should be consenting, fun and take you to the limits, Orgasm should go hand in hand. Sex whether it be a one night stand or with the one you love, it should be fulfilling.

Once you are comfortable with your partner you can introduce sex toys, vibrator, dildo, handcuffs whatever your vise is.

I personally prefer sex out of the bedroom, in a park, on a beach, roof of a building, change room in a mall, public washroom etc.

Sex should be sensual, add some candles or a bath for two with bubbles and massage oil, edible underwear, Men enjoy the visual concept of sex, they love to see you naked and watch you while they are thrusting in and out of you. Different positions can also add a little spice to your sex life, dogie style, girl on top, reverse cowboy, sideways. Don't forget about oral sex, men love this stuff, girls too, I didn't really enjoy receiving oral sex at first, to me the men weren't doing it right, so I taught my boyfriend and it is so much better.

You have to communicate and don't be afraid to speak up if you don't like something or it just isn't doing it for you, guys/girls are not mind readers so you both have to be on the same page. Most people enjoy porn, there is nothing wrong with watching it with your partner and then role playing or copying what they are doing on t.v. as long as it's safe and in your limits. Never let anyone pressure you into anything.

I was at a wedding once and we went into the woman's bathroom and had sex it was amazing and we went on with the night, the risk of getting caught was an orgasm in itself.

I have had my share of bad and good sex, and I won't settle for less, no more bad sex for me, now I have to be in love rather than have some one night stand it just doesn't do it for me anymore, I have to feel comfortable and we have to be in sync, practice makes perfect and I have found my perfect match. I have a really high sex drive, I have to have sex at least once a day. I saw a couple of polls that people have sex less than three times a week oh my god I would die!

I have more than that in a day sometimes depends on our schedules. Sex should be enjoyed and should not be censored, people have sex, and they should be able to talk freely about it, again as long as it is not against someones consent and they aren't a rapist or a pedophile, then if you have a healthy libido there is nothing wrong, take it out of the bedroom and enjoy!

Knowing what you want uncensored

There is nothing wrong with knowing what you want whether it be with love, sex or what you want in a relationship. After all sex is about enjoyment. You don't want to have boring sex; seriously what is the point then?! Let's talk about sex first off, personally I have to be sexually connected to the person I am with, to me that is a huge deal. We have to be in sync, spontaneous and adventurous, willing to take it out of the bedroom and just be free, Being about to teach each other what pleasures us, Sex should not be a chore. Love the dreaded four letter word to some.

I think you just know when you are in love, you feel it it's not something that you can control or time. Relationships, most women I have talked to; my friends all have the fairytale syndrome, wanting to find their princes, have the white picket fence and the 2.5 kids and a dog and the career that goes along with it. Some prefer to put their relationships on hold until they get their careers going, or have a family until they are financial stable.
What I wanted and what I got were two totally different things, I had the marriage, the baby, but the sex was horrible, unsatisfying, no matter how much I would try to tell him or show him or take it out of the bedroom; to me it was a chore and a horrible one at that, leaving me frustrated and unsatisfied. With my boyfriend the sex is amazing we have it going on, I love him, but our relationship is still in the red.
I want more, To marry him, yet I couldn't ask for a better father figure he is amazing with my daughter, and my ex husband isn't, his parenting skills need work, he has no time or sense of responsibility. I take good sex, love and somebody that is good with kids over boring sex and a unhappily ever after marriage.
I still want the white picket fence, the house with a big back yard and a career in writing. Eventually I will get there. We should be picky, after all this is our lives we are talking about, our future, We should know what we want and be able to get it no matter what it takes. It's a good thing to know what you want, to have a plan a certain mind set, ambition; Just remember that there is no such thing as perfect, Love should be unconditional and sex should be enjoyable and sensual.
Sex and love don't always go together, some people can have a relationship based on just sex alone, that is their prerogative, The key is to find someone who shares the same dreams, has the same ambitions, on the same page as you are and knows what they want too.

Sex uncensored, taking it out of the bedroom

Sex, it's not taboo, people have sex all the time. Sex is natural and will happen no matter what. Sex should be consenting, fun and take you to the limits, Orgasm should go hand in hand. Sex whether it be a one night stand or with the one you love, it should be fulfilling.
Once you are comfortable with your partner you can introduce sex toys, vibrator, dildo, handcuffs whatever your vise is.

Sex should be sensual, add some candles or a bath for two with bubbles and massage oil, edible underwear, Men enjoy the visual concept of sex, they love to see you naked and watch you while they are thrusting in and out of you. Different positions can also add a little spice to your sex life, dogie style, girl on top, reverse cowboy, sideways. Don't forget about oral sex, men love this stuff, girls too.

You have to communicate and don't be afraid to speak up if you don't like something or it just isn't doing it for you, guys/girls are not mind readers so you both have to be on the same page. Most people enjoy porn, there is nothing wrong with watching it with your partner and then role playing or copying what they are doing on t.v. as long as it's safe and in your limits. Never let anyone pressure you into anything. There are many books out there, video's to watch and of course there's always Cosmo.

Keeping your sex life alive is up to you and your partner. Turn off the phones, plan a date, make time, but not a schedule, you want to keep it fun not as though it's a chore. Most of all be creative, don't be afraid to try new things or spice up old ones. Trail and error after all practice does make perfect!

I have had my share of bad and good sex, and I won't settle for less, no more bad sex for me, now I have to be in love rather than have some one night stand it just doesn't do it for me anymore, I have to feel comfortable and we have to be in sync, practice makes perfect and I have found my perfect match.
I have a really high sex drive, I have to have sex at least once a day. I saw a couple of polls that people have sex less than three times a week oh my god I would die!

I have more than that in a day sometimes depends on our schedules. Sex should be enjoyed and should not be censored, people have sex, and they should be able to talk freely about it, again as long as it is not against someones consent and they aren't a rapist or a pedophile, then if you have a healthy libido there is nothing wrong, take it out of the bedroom and enjoy!

Can you really live happily ever after?!

Love cannot be controlled; it either happens or it doesn't I'm going a little nuts, not knowing what to do. There are those who tell me that I can do better, that love is blind and I have to get in the game rather than sit on the fence. Emotional fantasies overcome my dreams, filling the gap that is empty. Fairytale syndrome; Avoidance became so entrenched.

When the lines of communication become obsolete its hard to connect on a mental level. Everyone falls in love differently and everyone deals differently.
Sex is important but there is more to a relationship, the little things that keep it going, I rather have love than some romp in the sack, an emotional attachment rather than some meaningless one night stand. Is a happy ending possible; is there room for love and honesty a well-balanced relationship, where every need is being met? Is it possible to give up all these games of the heart? Let go,or hold on is it a no win situation? Am I destine to a happy ending? I figure that establishing distance will put everything in perspective: that my instincts will kick in and I will know just what I have to do. We do stupid things in life, things that we cannot control no matter how hard we try. Head, heart and hormones just like the three Ls: live, laugh, and love. The three H's are pretty powerful too. The key is to get them in sync with each other, to balance life out I am sure that I am not alone in this, relationships are made of so many components, trust, love, honesty, understanding, and of course communication to me are the five main ingredients to a good relationship but as you can see by what you have read not every relationship has these components causing heartache and doom from the start. Just like every other female out there I too have the Cinderella syndrome, I want a fairytale ending, to find my prince and live happily ever after. I thought I found him, my husband that is, but I must enjoy chaos, and give up.

Maybe there is a happily ever after factor but we as humans tend to get caught up and overlook the possibilities.

Love is accepting each others flaws; there is a little bit of loser in all of us, we are not full of sunshine 24/7.

Do you ever recover from a broken heart? Do you ever get over your first love? What is wrong with society, our generation, why are the divorce rates so high; I can't talk I was married. There are those who rebound, or ones who jump from relationship to relationship never settling down long enough

for damage control.; Or sometimes it's too late to undo the damage already done. We are accountable for our own actions, everything we do reflects on something else and sometimes hearts get broken but most times we end up OK. Why do some men blame that we ruined their lives but still call us or talk to us and still want to be with us?, They should be thankful we set them free and no longer have to worry about us ruining their lives.

I am a boomerang, I left my ex boyfriend; got married; left my husband and went back to the ex boyfriend, and now I let him go, I have a 3 year old daughter who he loved as his own, the problem he wanted to move in, and even after a year i still wasn't ready, I liked the way things were and he was getting impatient, I don't blame him; he wanted more, but I didn't for the first time in being off and on with him for 13 years, I didn't want to co-habitat. So he found someone else moved in with his one night stand; rebound chick, and I guess he's O.K. yet he calls me crying that he misses me and my daughter, He has someone else who can give him what he wants; so if I ruined his life why is he still holding on? I am happy living with just my daughter; they did get close, and I am relieved now that I let go, pushing and pulling for 13 years is exhausting so is arguing about the same issues; moving in would not have solved them. I guess you have to know your limits and compromise but you have to be happy in the end, I have been married, and am still waiting for my happily ever after but under my terms so yes I think it is possible.