AS IF...

So I went back to court for variation of child support; and my ex made it all about him, the judge even granted him overnight visits with my daughter at his place which is 3 1/2 hours away, My ex hasn't called or saw our daughter in over 10 months! He has had access all along, (I have sole custody) He told the judge that he tried calling me, and that I don't live @ my address, he blamed me for not seeing our daughter when it was me all along trying to encourage him to step up and be a dad. He needed a court order to step up and be a dad..how pathetic is that?!

He has never had our daughter alone and now I am just to hand her over to him, I am so scared that he will leave her by her self. He has no attention span, and has walked away on her before.  She will be turning 5 in a week.

Needless to say he owns his own business, and boo whooing that he isn't making money, My dughters support went up $25 making it a measly $200. a month!!!

He has had 3 visits since then, once he came alone, the other 2 with his girlfriend. Took 100 pics and then rambled on about how I am jealous and If I am not I should be of his girlfriend, and that him and our daughter connected and I can't accept that she had fun!As long as his girlfriend is nice to our daughter than I have no problems!

I am happy as long as our daughter is, and I support her 100% encourage her to visit her dad even though she cried and told him she didn't want to see him.

He likes to call me names and say that I don't amount to anything, in my opinion he is the insecure one, who can't take responciblity for his actions.

He hates the fact that my boyfriend has been a huge part in our daughters life and that she and him have a greater bond than her and her dad does, anyway I keep telling my ex that this isn't about me this is about him needing a court order with a detailed schedule to step up and be a father to our daughter, he says in time she will move with him and see just how big of a bitch I really am. I say Karma is a bigger bitch than I could ever be!

He doesn't realise that he is giving our daughter anxiety, she is dreading having to go (3 hours away from Mommy).

He has never came up by himself, he hasn't spend 1 second alone with our daughter.

He teacher saw first hand the anxiety this is causing her and she is holding on to dear life to me, doesn't want to leave my side, or stay with anyone or go with anyone that she loves.

I feel so helpless, and my ex is being so selfish.

I try to be supportive and comfort her, I tell her that this is how things have to be now, and that she will always come home to Mommy. Mommy will never leave her...god forbid ( Anything could happen )

She thinks I am a superhero!

You think that my daughter would be getting better with each visit with her father, instead she is getting worse.

She has become emotional isolated, different and cries when she sees him, shaking and hiding.

She doesn't want to go with him, I have to comply with the court order.

I cannot believe that the judge got conned by my ex. I cannot believe that the courts do not put the best interest of the child in consideration.

Who are they to know what is right for my daughter?

Should Hallowe'en parties be banned from school?

After what I experienced at my childs school I have been debating this issue with the school,

If the J.K.'s would have been allowed to have a Halloween party in their own classroom, I would not have objections!

The saftey of the children were compromised as the school (teachers) left grade 4 students in charge or the JK and Sk's, they were

split in groups, and it was far from a happy day!

To whom it may concern;
Re: Halloween free for all

I am writing this letter as I have some issues that should be addressed by those responsible.

The event that was organized for Halloween was very unorganized, after hearing that Grade 4 students would be responsible for looking after my daughter who is 4 and in J.K I decided to tag along. I am so glad I did, what I saw was uncalled for. These grade 4 leaders are just children; children that you's thought could manage 3-5 year olds.

These "leaders" were bullies and very disrespectful. It was far from a safe/secure environment and you as a school are responsible for the safety, well being of all children.

Why were there no adults in charge, why leave it up to children? This should have been thought out a lot better, and maybe parents should have been asked to volunteer to be leaders. Grades 4's are not mature or responsible enough to look after my child let alone the rest of them.

They didn't exactly set an example for their younger peers.

Making this a far from enjoyable experience for the J.K's.

Some were in tears, some left behind and some who asked for help ignored, Ordered instead of asked and belittled by calling them babies. The J.K's are people too; little children with feelings, wanting to be independent and included rather than feeling insignificant and timid. Most of them still adapting.

I don't know why Miss' s request for excluding the J.K.'s was denied, at least someone had the children's best interest in mind.
I am far from the over protective stereo typed mom, I believe in independence and allowing my child to make her own decisions, But as a parent I never leave supervision in the hands of another child. The other teachers should have been more aware.
I am very disgusted with how things were organised.
As a parent what I saw made me question how things are done and if you really have the childrens well being/best interest in mind.

Note for next event maybe ask for adults to supervise and not leave it up to children!

Sincerely,

What happened to Halloween

Seriously, I remember when I was a kid, we had pillow cases full, huge quantities and yummy stuff. Another thing Why is Halloween so commercial? What happened to good ol' home made costumes?!

Note to my Former Husband....(Rant)

Note to my former husband; You obviously don't know how much it costs to raise a child because you never raised one! If you think you are helping me with your measly $175.00 a month that is in arrears anyway think again, You keep thinking you are better than me! I can tell you that when it comes to being a parent I over rank you in a heartbeat.
Our daughter is the only good thing that came out of my life with you and I am so greatful for her she is so amazing! I am not saying I was the perfect wife but at least I know the meaning of being a parent so 1 for me 0 for you. I still come out a winner. Money can't buy love and our daughter is priceless, she is more than any diamond or pearl; she is a natural treasure.

You will never know what it's like to be loved unconditionally. Our daughter is not deprived of anything except maybe the attention from you her father! Seriously you don't know the meaning of family so it's a good thing you changed the name of the restaurant, it was false advertising. Not my problem but when you are greyer and older and end up all alone don't come crying to our daughter or me for that matter. You aren't there for her now. You give other paying fathers a bad name.

Used Furniture/Damaged Goods

Leon's Furniture

 Has anyone else had a problem with a furniture company?

I ordered a full bedroom set; I mean everything.

The first time, the head board delivered wasn't the right one, and the dresser was scratched, so I called and complained they told me to come reselect.

I did that, It took 3 more weeks to deliver, and when the set was delivered the delivery boys left it in the middle of my livingroom, and the head board was damaged. I called again and told them to refund me and come get their mercandise. If I wanted "used" furniture I would have shopped at Value villiage. It took yet another month for them to come and get the stuff.